This is the practical version: how to get Identity V running on two phones with the two of you in the same session, and what to do when you cannot see each other in the friend list.
Before you start
You each need your own copy on your own phone. Identity V is on both the App Store and Google Play, so it does not matter which of you is on iPhone and which is on Android.
It is free to download, so there is no reason for one of you to hold off and watch over the other's shoulder.
Step by step
- Install it on both phones. Do this before you sit down to play — first-launch downloads are always bigger than you expect.
- Create a private room and share the code with your partner. This is the step that connects the two of you rather than putting you in a public lobby.
- Jump into quick rounds together.
- Stay on a call while you set up the first time. Working out one game's friend system together takes five minutes; doing it over text takes half an hour.
When you cannot find each other
- Make sure you are both fully signed in, not playing as a guest — guest accounts are the most common reason a friend request never arrives.
- Check you have both got the app updated. A version gap can hide one of you from the other.
- Have the person creating the session send the invite rather than both of you searching at once.
- Restart the app on both phones before assuming something is broken.
Making Identity V work as a couple thing
Once the setup is done, the question becomes whether you keep playing. Identity V is quick, loud and easy to pick up mid-conversation, and that shapes how to fit it into a week.
- Quick, chaotic rounds that are easy to pick up together.
- Guaranteed laughs make it a couple game-night favourite.
- Low stakes and high fun — no experience required.
Agree on how long a session is before you start. "One more round" is how a ten-minute game eats an evening.
Similar games worth having installed
- Among Us — Among Us is the hugely popular social deduction game where Crewmates race to finish tasks while hidden Impostors quietly sabotage and eliminate them.
- Goose Goose Duck — Goose Goose Duck is a free social deduction game in the Among Us vein, where Geese complete tasks while Ducks sabotage — all with built-in voice chat.
- Stumble Guys — Stumble Guys is a chaotic knockout party game where up to 32 players tumble through obstacle courses until one is left standing.
More of the same kind on our category page.
Where to go next
A tip from running this list: pair a competitive game with a calm one. Our Flower Garden is the calm half of ours — a shared garden that waits for you.
- Is Identity V Cross-Platform? iPhone & Android
- Is Identity V Multiplayer? How to Play It Together
- How to Play 2 Player Games: The Challenge With Friends
- How to Play 8 Ball Pool With Friends
- Our full list of the best mobile couple games
Frequently asked questions
- How do I play Identity V with my partner?
- Install Identity V on both phones, create a private room and share the code with your partner, then start a session together. The friend step is what keeps you out of a public lobby.
- Can you play Identity V with friends as well as your partner?
- Yes — the same friend system that connects the two of you works for a wider group, so Identity V scales up on the nights you want company.
- Why can't my partner see me in Identity V?
- Usually one of you is signed in as a guest, or one copy of the app is out of date. Sign in properly on both phones, update both, then send the invite from one side rather than searching from both.
- Do we need to be in the same room to play Identity V?
- No. Identity V plays online, so the two of you can be anywhere as long as you both have a connection.
