Never Have I Ever: 80 Questions for Couples

Most Never Have I Ever lists are written for a room full of students. These eighty are written for two people who already know each other, which needs a different set of questions — there is no point asking your partner things you watched them do.

How it works with two: one of you reads a statement. If you have done it, you say so. Keep score on your fingers if you like, or do not bother. The scoring was never the point.

Agree before you start that passing is allowed, no explanation required. It keeps the whole thing friendly.

Everyday things

1. Never have I ever pretended to be on the phone to avoid someone.
2. Never have I ever eaten something that fell on the floor.
3. Never have I ever gone a whole week without doing laundry.
4. Never have I ever cancelled plans by inventing an excuse.
5. Never have I ever left a shop because the queue was too long.
6. Never have I ever forgotten someone’s name mid-conversation.
7. Never have I ever pretended to understand something I did not.
8. Never have I ever stayed up past 3am for no good reason.
9. Never have I ever eaten cereal for dinner.
10. Never have I ever rewatched a whole series instead of starting a new one.
11. Never have I ever walked into a glass door.
12. Never have I ever lied about my age.
13. Never have I ever skipped a meal because I could not be bothered to cook.
14. Never have I ever sent a message to the wrong person.
15. Never have I ever kept a book I borrowed.

About us

16. Never have I ever looked you up online before we met properly.
17. Never have I ever rehearsed something I wanted to say to you.
18. Never have I ever pretended to like something because you liked it.
19. Never have I ever been nervous before seeing you.
20. Never have I ever told a friend something about you before telling you.
21. Never have I ever noticed something about you and never mentioned it.
22. Never have I ever let you win at something.
23. Never have I ever stayed annoyed about something too small to bring up.
24. Never have I ever imagined what our life looks like in ten years.
25. Never have I ever reread our old messages.
26. Never have I ever been jealous of someone in your life.
27. Never have I ever changed my mind about something because of you.
28. Never have I ever said “I don’t mind” when I did mind.
29. Never have I ever kept a gift I did not like.
30. Never have I ever pretended to be asleep.

Before we met

31. Never have I ever had a crush on a teacher.
32. Never have I ever been dumped by text.
33. Never have I ever gone back to someone I should not have.
34. Never have I ever kept a diary.
35. Never have I ever had a phase I am embarrassed about.
36. Never have I ever dyed my hair a colour I regret.
37. Never have I ever been in a band or wanted to be.
38. Never have I ever written something I hoped someone specific would read.
39. Never have I ever moved somewhere for a person.
40. Never have I ever quit something on the first day.
41. Never have I ever been told off by a stranger.
42. Never have I ever had a nickname I hated.
43. Never have I ever failed something important.
44. Never have I ever lied in a job interview.
45. Never have I ever had a job I lasted less than a month in.

Travel and nights out

46. Never have I ever missed a flight.
47. Never have I ever fallen asleep somewhere public.
48. Never have I ever got properly lost in a city.
49. Never have I ever lost my passport or ID.
50. Never have I ever been to a country without knowing a single word of the language.
51. Never have I ever booked a trip on impulse.
52. Never have I ever been thrown out of anywhere.
53. Never have I ever danced completely sober.
54. Never have I ever sung karaoke in front of strangers.
55. Never have I ever stayed out until sunrise.
56. Never have I ever got on the wrong train or bus and just gone with it.
57. Never have I ever travelled somewhere alone.
58. Never have I ever been so lost I had to ask three different people.
59. Never have I ever swum somewhere I probably should not have.
60. Never have I ever slept in an airport.

Honest ones

61. Never have I ever cried at something and pretended I had not.
62. Never have I ever envied a friend’s life.
63. Never have I ever stayed somewhere longer than I wanted out of guilt.
64. Never have I ever apologised without meaning it.
65. Never have I ever let a friendship fade on purpose.
66. Never have I ever been relieved when plans were cancelled.
67. Never have I ever kept a worry to myself for more than a month.
68. Never have I ever pretended to be fine for someone else’s sake.
69. Never have I ever changed how I act depending on who I am with.
70. Never have I ever regretted saying something the moment it came out.
71. Never have I ever wanted to start completely over somewhere new.
72. Never have I ever been proud of something nobody else noticed.
73. Never have I ever kept a goal secret in case I failed at it.
74. Never have I ever felt lonely in a room full of people.
75. Never have I ever avoided a conversation I knew I needed to have.
76. Never have I ever surprised myself with how much I cared about something.
77. Never have I ever forgiven someone and not told them.
78. Never have I ever held on to something I should have let go.
79. Never have I ever been scared of how much something mattered to me.
80. Never have I ever thought about this exact moment happening.

Where to go next

If the last section landed, the natural follow-on is the 36 questions that lead to love — same territory, more structure. For something lighter, go to Would You Rather or the couple quiz.

The full set of games you can play without installing anything is in online games for couples, no download.